IF there’s something strange in the neighbourhood, who you gonna call? Well certainly not your other half if you have fallen foul of the relatively new dating phenomenon known as ‘ghosting’.
When I first heard the expression ‘ghosting’ from a friend, not wanting to admit that I was not au fait with urban speak I looked it up. This was the definition: Ghosting; ‘the appearance of a ghost or secondary image on a television or other display screen.’
Perplexed, I scrolled down and I then realised there was a second definition. It read: ‘the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication’. Ouch!
Initially you go back to your phone at a reasonable frequency of once every half hour to check for those all-important blue ticks, but after several hours of silence paranoia begins to set in and you are in and out of ‘what’s app’ more frequently than a specter at a haunting.
All sorts of thoughts run through your mind ‘I hope he is OK, perhaps he’s had an accident or even worse perhaps he’s dead!’ Then the ultimate kick in the stomach hits home. They are ‘online’ but are quite blatantly ignoring your message. There is not a lot you can do in these circumstances but ride the pain. Welcome to Ghostville, population – YOU!
What happens though if your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend owes you money or has belongings of yours?
If they ignore your request to return what is rightfully yours then depending on what’s at stake you may have to instruct a solicitor to recover your money and/or possessions.
Unmarried couples do not have the protection of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 but you can pursue action for recovery via the county court.
Initially a solicitor will send a pre-action letter politely requesting the return of the said money/possessions – however, we do not wait for the ‘blue ticks’ to appear. It is quite black and white. Either respond within the time stipulated or face court. We are not interested in emotional warfare.
So whilst you may moan the loss of your emotionally devoid former half, who has decided to become a ghost have no fear. When it comes to the practical issues we are very much online and on your side. We will have no qualms at signing off. Ignore us at your peril.